Interracial Dating

As recently as 1967, marrying a person of another race was considered to be illegal in at least sixteen states of the United States. Thanks to the Loving Decision, a ruling made by the U.S. Supreme Court, these laws have been overturned and people are free to date and marry whom they like without condemnation. Considering that only thirty years have passed since interracial dating was viewed in such a negative light, individuals who engage in cross-cultural romantic relations might still find themselves suffering some lash-back from individuals who are behind the times. 
Thankfully, interracial dating has come a long way since the days when couples were sent to jail for it. There are many sites on the Internet that encourage people to meet each other and explore their romantic options with individuals from different backgrounds. Simply typing in the keywords ''interracial dating'' or ''interracial couples'' into a popular search engine such as Google will lead you to scores of sites that not only provide dating services but also offer support in the form of chat-rooms and forums to interracial couples. 

Interracial couples can face all kinds of unusual challenges during their time together including racist or disapproving comments from friends or family who insist on resisting evolving attitudes about this matter. Depending on the community that the couple lives in, they may also suffer from prejudice when it comes to the dealing employment, health and banking systems. 

One might wonder what might cause family and friends to rebel against interracial dating. As explained in Verna Stolke's book entitled ''Marriage, Class & Color In 19th Century Cuba'', many families may oppose the bonding of their loved one with someone of another race because of political reasons, religious reasons or family pride. In one example in the book a Spanish doctor was against the bonding of his daughter with a Jamaican man because he did not want to ''spoil the family blood.'' Many critics of interracial relationships also demean them by ascribing the appeal to sex and the lure of exotic sensual adventures. They don't understand that a great deal of soul-searching goes into interracial relationships and that many of them are begin as friendships that blossom into true love. 

Some family members might not overtly demonstrate their abhorrence toward interracial relationships and instead display their disapproval in a subtle passive-aggressive manner. For instance, parents may not invite their daughter or son who is dating or married interracially to any family functions. Moreover, the grandparents may not attend any of the biracial grandchildren's birthday parties or invitations for family reunions. There will always be some type of excuse as to why the biracial couple has been excluded from bonding socially with the rest of the family. 

Opposition by family and friends can cause a terror of abandonment that is suffered by at least one member of the bi-racial relationship. This is why it is crucial that the couple create a new world of their own making by finding other couples and friends who are supportive of them. This is why it may be important to find a support group on the Internet to bolster confidence and assure the couples that they are not uniquely damned by perverse societal or family attitudes. The couple must also find the courage and strength to transcend personal prejudice and cultivate what is worthy in each other. 

Negative attitudes to interracial dating seem to prevail more in the Southern states and smaller communities. In larger urban centers and certainly in countries such as Canada and England, interracial dating is accepted and also encouraged as being the hip thing to do. In Britain, 40 per cent of black men are married to or living with a white woman, versus only 21 per cent of black women married to or living with a white man in the United States. 

While it is tempting to limit our view of interracial dating to the union of a black person and a white person, it is important to recognize that this practice includes many other cultures and color lines. Interracial dating and marrying is described as the dating or marrying of two people of different races. The bonding may be within any of Asian, Afro-American, Caucasians, Hispanic or Indian. This type of bonding is becoming more popular than ever despite the negative commentary against these unions that litters the Internet. 

Various articles and magazines have suggested that black females dating Caucasian men constitute the largest portion of dating activity on the web. According to a 1992 Sex in America study of 3,432 people, ten times more single white women than single white men reported that their most recent sex partner was black The second largest trend displayed nationally with regards to interracial dating is Caucasian men dating Asian women. The latest fad in interracial dating, apparently is older white women dating very young Persian or Islamic men. 

Studies indicate that interracial marriages tend to last longer than same-race unions. One might think the opposite because in same-race marriages it's more likely that the couple has the approval of relatives and friends and practice the same religion. By contrast, Interracial couples seldom take anything for granted, least of all each other. They often are determined to prove critics wrong by making their union last. 

Unfortunately, people who engage in interracial dating may still be the objects of derision from individuals who are unwilling to accept that interracial relationships are evidence of a world full of diversity that is finally beginning to live in acceptance and harmony.

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